The Quiet Power of Self-Belief: Why Confidence Matters for Our Wellbeing as Women

If there’s one thing I’ve learned on my own journey, it’s that confidence is not just about how we look or how we show up in the world. It’s deeply tied to how we feel inside. And for so many women, that inner confidence is something we’ve been taught to shrink, question, or silence.

We’re often encouraged to be strong, but not too strong. To speak up, but not too loudly. To be confident, but not too confident. And somewhere in between all of that, many of us lose the belief that who we are is already enough.

For me, self-belief wasn’t something I always had. In fact, I spent years feeling small, unsure, and disconnected from myself, especially after grief, loss, and moments in life when everything I thought I knew changed. I didn’t realise how much it was affecting my mental health until I noticed how easily I doubted myself, how quickly I apologised for existing, how heavy it felt trying to be okay on the outside when I didn’t feel okay on the inside.

That’s when I began to understand: confidence is not loudness , it’s wholeness.

It’s the quiet, inner knowing that you matter. That your voice has value. That you don’t have to be perfect to be worthy.

We often talk about self-love, but self-belief is its foundation. Without it, everything feels unstable.

When we don’t believe in ourselves:

• We say yes when we mean no

• We stay silent when we want to speak

• We shrink ourselves for the comfort of others

• We feel guilty for needing rest, support, or space

• We think other people know what’s best for us, more than we do

And the truth is that this affects our mental health more than we realise.

Self-doubt creates exhaustion.

People-pleasing creates anxiety.

Suppressing who we are creates depression.

But the beautiful thing about confidence is: it can be rebuilt. Not overnight. Not through a motivational quote or a single act of self-care. But slowly, through honesty, community, compassion, and practice.

For me, that journey led me to create B.L.O.O.M by SMA, because I realised that so many women are dealing with the same silent battles. We don’t just need spaces to talk ,we need spaces to feel seen.

Places where we don’t have to pretend we’re okay. Places where confidence isn’t about being perfect, but being real. And I’ve learned this too:

Sometimes you don’t wake up confident. You build confidence by showing up, even when you feel unsure. You build self-belief by taking one small step that says, “I deserve to be here. I deserve to heal. I deserve to grow.”

So if you’re reading this and you’re struggling to believe in yourself, I want you to know:

You’re not behind.

You’re not failing.

You’re not weak.

You’re just in a chapter of rebuilding - and that is still blooming. 🌸

Confidence doesn’t start with “I can.”

It begins with “I’m willing to try.”

And that is more than enough. Interested in joining a walk or learning more about B.L.O.O.M?

Email me directly at bloombysma@hotmail.com
Let’s walk. Let’s talk. Let’s bloom.